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Splits Need Not Happen - Steve Martin, Love For His People Ministry

Written on 09/07/2022
Steve Martin

Sept. 7, 2022 Love for His People Ministry in Charlotte, North Carolina USA

Splits Need Not Happen

“So let no one judge you in food or in drink, or regarding a festival or a new moon or sabbaths, which are a shadow of things to come, but the substance is of Christ.” Colossians 2:16-18, NKJV

You may recall various times in the Bible when people had disagreements. This one was certainly sure they were right while the other one insisted on the fact that they knew it all. Even among the leaders in the New Testament, with Paul and Barnabas, and later Peter and Paul, there arose disagreements regarding issues, as they each sought to know and do what was right, as they believed it to be.

In one case, the disagreement got so bad that it caused a split. Paul would not let John Mark accompany him on a trip when Barnabas thought otherwise. So, separation occurred between them.

“After some days Paul said to Barnabas, "Let us return and visit the brethren in every city in which we proclaimed the word of the Lord, and see how they are." Barnabas wanted to take John, called Mark, along with them also. But Paul kept insisting that they should not take him along who had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not gone with them to the work.

And there occurred such a sharp disagreement that they separated from one another, and Barnabas took Mark with him and sailed away to Cyprus. But Paul chose Silas and left, being committed by the brethren to the grace of the Lord. And he was traveling through Syria and Cilicia, strengthening the churches.” Acts 15:36-41, NASU

So, what does that have to do with you and me? Why does that matter to you and me?

Because…some things never change. Human beings have fights. Even among Christians themselves, and Jews as a matter of fact, end up parting ways. How many sects and denominations are there now??!! Just saying (as they say here in the South.)

With that said, how do we act when we disagree with one another over a certain day, a specific belief, an act that we are certain is not what we are to do who call ourselves believers? For we all want to do what is right, what is fair, and what is the way God would have us live. Right?

We both know that splits occur in families, churches, synagogues, and of course, in politics and things of the world in which we live. It happens all the time.

Again, it all goes back to human nature. Our sinful nature, the “flesh”, as it is called in some circles, wants to always get its own way. We disagree, so the easy thing to do is just walk away. End the relationship. Some even after decades of walking as friends, co-workers, and family members. And then we cry while singing, “Don’t walk away, Renee” as The Four Tops sang in 1966 (Walk Away Renee).

How tragic. And how long-term it has affected us all. Some things never get healed, and it is very sad.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. “It don’t come easy” as the song goes, but we know it is necessary to do all we can to not burn bridges. To not tear down. To not just walk away and say that is it. “Done. Finished. Forget about you.”

(As a side note, I don’t endorse the secular songs I noted, but people seem to know them, so I mention them for connection’s sake.)

We must let go of our pride. We must let go of divisiveness and not let petty issues, those things that are not life-threatening, be set aside. We must admit that we don’t have all the answers, that the other “just may be right” in what they said or did.

When my good wife Laurie and I got married 45 years ago on Oct. 8, 1977, we made a commitment to each other. The “D” word would never be an option in our marriage. Divorce was not going to be a choice, a way out. And when we did that, it closed the door on allowing the enemy, Satan himself and his demon cohorts, from separating us in another disastrous situation that so many have experienced.

And by the grace of God, through thick and thin, we have kept our marriage vows, our covenant to one another. Thank You, Lord.

When faced with the opportunity to “split” or to rather work it out, I hope you fight for the latter. After all is said and done, you and the other(s) involved will be far better off for it.

The song I really like, and endorse, is sung by Don Moen. When It's All Been Said and Done. Listen to that one and be encouraged in our Lord Jesus Christ, the One Who can mend and heal all splits, divisions, and that which would keep us from walking fully in His ways!

Ahava and shalom,

Steve Martin, Love For His People, Founder

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Message #105 in this series – in the year of our Lord 09.07.2022 – “Splits Need Not Happen.”, Wednesday, 6:24 am in  Charlotte, North Carolina, USA